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Navigating Thanksgiving: A Thanksgiving Guide for Families with Unique Needs

Celebrating Thanksgiving
Celebrating Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving often arrives wrapped in expectations including perfect meals, joyful gatherings, and picture-worthy moments. But for families raising children with unique needs, the holiday can feel more like a high stake juggling act than a celebration. Sensory overload, disrupted routines, and well-meaning relatives can turn a day of gratitude into a minefield of stress.


If that’s you, you’re not alone.


It’s a Thanksgiving plan that prioritizes your child’s needs, your peace of mind, and realistic expectations.


1. Redefine “Tradition” on Your Terms

Traditions should work for your family and not add pressure to the holiday. If your child thrives with structure, consider creating a visual schedule for the day. If large gatherings are overwhelming, host a quiet brunch instead of dinner. If turkey isn’t a sensory win, skip it. Your version of Thanksgiving is valid.


Try this:

  • Create a “Thanksgiving Choice Board” with preferred foods, activities, and calming tools.

  • Introduce a new tradition like a gratitude jar, sensory-friendly walk, or family movie night.


 2. Prepare for Sensory and Social Dynamics

Crowded rooms, unfamiliar smells, and noisy conversations can be tough for kids with sensory sensitivities or social anxiety. Planning ahead can make all the difference.


Support strategies:

  • Pack a sensory kit: headphones, fidgets, weighted lap pad, or calming scents.

  • Practice scripts for greetings or exits (“I need a break now” or “Happy Thanksgiving!”).

  • Identify a quiet space at the gathering for decompression.


3. Set Boundaries with Love (and a Little Humor)

You may encounter unsolicited advice, outdated assumptions, or awkward questions. It’s okay to protect your peace.


Sample responses:

  • “We’re focusing on connection, not correction today.”

  • “Thanks for your concern, but our team has a great plan in place.”

  • “We’re grateful for your support, even if our path looks different.”


4. Celebrate the Big and Small Wins

Did your child try a new food? Stay regulated for part of the day? Use a coping strategy? That’s a win. Did you advocate, adapt, or simply show up with love? That’s a win too.


Consider this:

  • End the day with a family “gratitude circle” where everyone shares one thing they’re proud of or happy about in their life.

  • Take a photo of a quiet moment.


5. Remember: You Deserve Rest and Joy Too

You are the heartbeat of your family’s support system. Your needs matter. Whether it’s a solo walk, a favorite dessert, or a moment to breathe.


Need Support Beyond the Holidays?


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